Can healing the Beauty Wound actually change how we look?

by Lian Brook-Tyler

Can healing the Beauty Wound actually change how we look?

Something that’s been coming up in conversations I’ve been having with women about the work of Beauty Potion is whether it only changes how we feel about the way we look (and by *only* that’s not to dismiss it), but whether this work might actually change how we look.

Whilst the deepest intention of the work of Beauty Potion is to heal our Beauty Wound, creating a union between our inner and outer beauty, allowing us to feel deeply at home in our own skin, and ultimately to have our outer beauty become an expression of the truth of our soul… in paradoxical and an undeniably magical way that can also bring changes in the way we look.

I’ll share two examples of this, and then a little about why these kinds of miracles are possible.

The first is a woman I’ve been working with one-to-one for some years now, and part of our work together has centred around her Beauty Wound. She has reclaimed her beauty, and her expression of it, in a way that’s become breathtaking… and increasingly, that is being reflected back to her by others. She shared with me a comment she received from one of her students just last week:

“You genuinely seem to be getting more beautiful every day. How are you doing that?”

The second example is me. And whilst I could share many ways that my looks have changed through this very work, it’s more difficult to isolate them… partly because I’ve been in this unfolding for decades, much of it to begin with unconsciously, which meant I wasn’t measuring any of it.

However, as part of my preparation for Beauty Potion, I decided to take on an experiment, a magical experiment, to see whether what I was intending to guide women into could indeed produce visible results, and in a short space of time.

The focus of this experiment was my hair. I’ve always found my hair a challenge: I adore having long hair, and yet I have fine, silky strands that refuse to lie well or hold shape, a long history of low iron levels - a key nutrient for hair growth, and a lifelong breakage-causing addiction to playing with it, and so, growing it long *and* full has long eluded me.

In December, I chose to see whether I could not only fall in love with my hair, getting to know it and cherishing it for what it is in a way I’ve never done before (because in the words of one of my most quoted quotes from the other Carl “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers)… but then perhaps, also literally transform it into something that felt and looked, well, “more me”

The photo shows the transformation that took place between December, a February post-trim check-in, and mid-April, in just three and a half months!

Side-note: The “before” photo was taken just after a trim, before I decided to make a proper experiment of this (and in fact, was the inspiration for it!), and so it is combed out and maybe slightly damp, meaning the breakage is highlighted. If I’d realised I was going to want a “before” photo, I would taken one that was more representative of how it normally looked, and therefore more comparable but still… You can clearly see that, despite several hard-chosen trims, my hair is now slightly longer than it was in December, and yet, it’s noticeably softer, thicker, and fuller. The strands also lay differently now, less like sworn enemies, more like lovers.

There’s still a way to go before it mirrors the “floating around in a Pre-Raphaelite painting” vision that I have of my soul, but the lustrous foundation is there now, and in a far shorter time than even I imagined was feasible.

How are changes like this possible?

To really answer that, we’d need to take a metaphysical mystery tour that’s beyond the bounds of this post. But for now, I’ll say this: our inner self and outer self are two sides of the same ancient alchemical golden coin. If one side changes, the other must respond.

In Beauty Potion, we’ll explore why our looks are a reflection of our soul… and how, as we align more deeply with our truth, that shift ripples through our self-image and into the mirror-image… until, quite literally, we look more like ourselves.

There’s only one space left and we begin on 13th May.

Come join us, but only if you’re ready for real magic.

All my love,

Li ♥️

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